In order to do this I had to go
back in time, because currently I have no conflicts or disagreements with
anyone. But I do recall a disagreement I
had with colleagues that has often come to my mind throughout this past week,
mainly because I felt I could have handled myself in a better way. I have mentioned that I often care so much
about another person’s feelings that I will allow them to attack me and not
respond because I do not like confrontation and I don’t want to treat others in
a way that I do not want to be treated
Now I have decided when these types of disagreements come up I
will take a step back, take a deep breath, count (if I need to), and then respond by asking
questions to clarify what they are truly saying and why they feel the way they
do (Nonviolence communication, n.d.; The third Side, n.d.). I will also be clear as to how I feel and
what I need to help the discussion move forward. Another skill I am bound and
determined to work on is helping everyone stay to the issue and attack the
issue not the people. Helping everyone
remain focused on the issue will hopefully eliminate the need for feeling
defensive and use blame.
References
The Center for Nonviolent Communication. (n.d.). The center for
nonviolent communication. Retrieved from www.cnvc.org
The
Third Side. (n.d.). The third side. Retrieved from http://www.thirdside.org/
I think I can defiantly take this advice. In a professional setting when confrontation occurs I handle these situations differently from personal conflicts. When engaged in conflict with family or close friends I find myself attacking the person which can be harmful to the relationship and individual. Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteChris,
ReplyDeleteYou remind me that so often we do attack individuals. I am at fault for that many times. I also need to focus on the issue and not the individuals. There are times, I may argue back, but other times, I sit and nod, because I am not sure how to handle the conflict.